Cultivating Understanding at Home

The key to cultivating understanding is to take your partner's feelings seriously; to find the logic in what he or she says and does, even if you disagree. If both people do this then the atmosphere is much more conducive to finding healthy solutions to conflict and misunderstandings.

Flourishing as a Couple

If couples remember this one principal their relationships will be infinitely better: Be more interested in understanding your partner, rather than winning.

Music and Flourishing, or You Are What You Listen To

Listen to this jazz tune by Wes Montgomery to test the yogic idea that we are deeply shaped by what we are connected to. Notice if your mood changes as you hear Wes' beautiful playing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqn3PF_DcSg&feature=related

Feeling Good and Feeling Badly

Feeling "good" doesn't mean that you are doing well (you might be repeating familiar, addictive patterns); and "feeling badly" doesn't mean you are doing poorly (you might be taking healthy risks and venturing into new and unfamiliar territory...